tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post3898642551088634225..comments2023-10-29T12:18:01.974-03:00Comments on Living Life on the Road Less Traveled: Good Ol' Pro/Con ListStephaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07917067716960353906noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-32912716443570412692009-12-31T20:50:04.466-02:002009-12-31T20:50:04.466-02:00die Verständliche Antwort viagra generika 100 mg...die Verständliche Antwort <a href="http://t7-isis.org" rel="nofollow">viagra generika 100 mg</a> cialis rezeptfrei [url=http//t7-isis.org]levitra bayer[/url]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-34560015281581359272009-12-08T22:32:56.317-02:002009-12-08T22:32:56.317-02:00hey Stephanie, I like your new picture! Did you f...hey Stephanie, I like your new picture! Did you figure out what you're going to do yet?Mrs. Cariocahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15893947195222930369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-26378755288368046632009-12-08T15:43:57.582-02:002009-12-08T15:43:57.582-02:00I admire your honesty in making those lists. And ...I admire your honesty in making those lists. And though I don't know you IRL, I will say that I don't hear a lot coming from the "pro" quarter. The "cons" sound a lot more pressing to me. In fact, my sense is that you really do need some more space and time with Sidnei that is unmediated by his family members. I'm just saying that based on what you wrote, so I hope it isn't over-stepping to say that.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-10129903754280910732009-12-07T13:57:42.253-02:002009-12-07T13:57:42.253-02:00Hi Steph,
This post was from a couple of weeks n...Hi Steph, <br /><br />This post was from a couple of weeks now, so I hope you've worked it out in win/win sort of way. <br /><br />Tough decision. Tough decision. I like my privacy a lot and I know how "close" families here can be. But, if you need money, you need money. So, basically, I'm of no help. Sorry!<br /><br />Any way, here's the link to my roll recipe-I posted about it a long time agon. Hope they work for you, they ususally do for me and yeast is not my friend.<br /><br />http://livingsouthoftheborder.blogspot.com/2006/05/freezer-food-friday-butterhorns.html<br /><br />Have a great day!<br />Tchau.Gabrielahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17985263633595003247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-29786430915049626442009-12-07T12:29:30.695-02:002009-12-07T12:29:30.695-02:00I agree with Betty here...and the others who focus...I agree with Betty here...and the others who focused on what is best for you AND Sidnei. A big point is to remember that it may be a long time. <br />If you need more money, then know that staying may the best option for now. The trips will help break up the monotony of living next to your inlaws. <br />Also, security is a huge concern...especially without a strong hold of the language. You inlaws know somewhat how to communicate with you, right? Imagine a time when you need something and are trying to talk with someone that doesn't understand you.<br />On the other side...privacy is wonderful for marriage, but only if you both want it!<br />Hope that helps....good luck with you decisions!<br />BGBallerina Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14811994023341526944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-71373324159345026012009-11-24T22:30:59.944-02:002009-11-24T22:30:59.944-02:00While I have found the cultural norm of living so ...While I have found the cultural norm of living so close to be a bit overwhelming we have also been able to negotiate a bit of private time without dirty looks or consequences from Luiz's mother.<br /><br />That is, Luiz hads been able to convince his mother that just because we don't have lunch with her all the time does not mean we are avoiding her. <br /><br />I think she gets it. No hard feelings. And more time apart.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14003236423048071844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-48959655055177204382009-11-24T13:44:48.172-02:002009-11-24T13:44:48.172-02:00another thing to add to the pro list is the compan...another thing to add to the pro list is the companionship of the in-laws. If you lived on your own, you would be really isolated. Living in close quarters is really convenient and allows for a lot of shared resources. This was a big positive when I lived in the favela. But, I really wanted not just my own space, but more space and the favela was really crowded. I think that you need to think both short term and long term. For now, I think living with the in-laws is probably the best, even if you invest some initial money to build upstairs. However, long term, you need your own space in my opinion. Even if you built something upstairs, you could rent it out in the future. It does not seem that right now would be the best time to get your own place. I think the $ would be better spent on travel (especially a trip back to the US) and saving up.<br /><br />Just my 2 cents.Corinnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-40393454148832272402009-11-24T09:29:41.250-02:002009-11-24T09:29:41.250-02:00Hey sweetie! I so so so feel for you - I count mys...Hey sweetie! I so so so feel for you - I count myself so lucky that my fiance and I can have our own place. It can be SO hard feeling that everyone has their families/friends to run to in a fight and there's just little you alone in Brazil. <br /><br />Just adding to what other people said I think you should make a long-term plan (with sidnei of course) and then work out what steps you need to take now to get there. So, if for example saving money now could get you a great apartment/flat in 6 months time perhaps its worth holding out. Or perhaps you need to wait until the final decision for Sidnei's papers. Is there any way you can rent furnished apartments round where you live? Could be a good short-term solution with little investment...<br /><br />Take care,<br />JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-89584115184171916042009-11-24T07:45:09.038-02:002009-11-24T07:45:09.038-02:00I admire you for trying so hard to do the right th...I admire you for trying so hard to do the right thing and support your hubby.<br /><br />When will you know about S's papers?Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13875207633073348136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-14607653681984672302009-11-23T23:10:30.628-02:002009-11-23T23:10:30.628-02:00Jelly Springer said...
Ok!!!
Here is what you need...<b>Jelly Springer</b> said...<br />Ok!!!<br />Here is what you need.<br /><b>OPINION!!!:D</b><br />If you wanna live in Brazil for a long time, you should have your own place...It might be hard to put in his family's mind that you're not breaking up with them. You'll be just getting your own space to do whatever you guys want,anytime( including sex!). <br />And then...They'll say:<br />You guys can do anything you want here!!( may'be his mother will say that!). <br /><br />*Please!Get those dirty thoughts out of your minds readers!!!!!!<br /><br />Your answer:I know! I like here, but is different...I wanna have an excuse to go out on sundays. Visit you,would be our sunday plan...And we wanna a place to have you guys over,too!( Honestly, it will be healthier for your mind and spirit).<br />If you don't have $$$ to move know.<br />You guys should work harder, make a plan, set a date(next month,next year...???)and move! It will get you guys busy thinking about future and making life less stressful!<br />Good luck!!!!!!<br />* you don't need to follow the dialogue, it's just an idea! <b>;)</b> Try to get someone from his family to agree with you and support the idea of moving out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-35529543102102147222009-11-23T22:27:39.178-02:002009-11-23T22:27:39.178-02:00Deciding to live with the in-laws isn't a once...Deciding to live with the in-laws isn't a once-and-for-all decision. What if you decide to live there for, say, 6 months and save up enough money for a trip or two. Once you get some traveling behind you, then set your focus on gaining independence. It sounds like it will be hard to have both at the same time, so check one off the list first, then the other.mrsmouthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14108312870207902676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-40533044250882314372009-11-23T17:00:25.716-02:002009-11-23T17:00:25.716-02:00I can hear it in your voice and I think if it is o...I can hear it in your voice and I think if it is okay with Sidinei then you should leavethelifeihadbeforehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11793522008159900697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-68671661845912107422009-11-23T15:26:49.769-02:002009-11-23T15:26:49.769-02:00Pray about it. That's all I can say!Pray about it. That's all I can say!Just Jaimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13713379359067478240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-64693179889483052662009-11-23T14:08:09.043-02:002009-11-23T14:08:09.043-02:00I think something to consider is if being with the...I think something to consider is if being with the in law's is putting a strain on your marriage. If it is, then you should leave. If not and if you are way worried about money, it may be better to stay until you are more stable. <br /><br />Love you and hope you can get this figured out soon :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06952149454502922794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654143697024684509.post-59962200491026682012009-11-23T14:02:12.473-02:002009-11-23T14:02:12.473-02:00I think a big PRO or CON will be when you know wha...I think a big PRO or CON will be when you know what Sidinei thinks or says.<br />But otherwise I think even though your Pro list is shorter than the other, you have to take on the importance of your points. How important is more money to you? Or is privacy MORE important than money? For me, living in a country I don´t like (still after 25 years!!), I can only say, if my hubby is happy here, I can learn to cope. And I think that´s what your goal should be too. If your hubby isn´t happy living alone and having to work harder to "have" money, will you be happy then? Even if you have more privacy?<br />So talk to S. first, then you need to decide.<br />I hope that helped.... :)<br />I completely understand your dilemma and will be thinking of you!Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.com